Neil Brown

hoy, 16:48 (Recibido hoy, 17:49)

Neil Brown
hoy, 16:48 (Recibido hoy, 17:49)

Every so often, I see an account here with "men: do not interact" (or similar) in the bio.

Setting boundaries is important, so I block the account and go about my day.

I can't promise to read every bio before each reply, but I do try.

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coldclimate

in reply to Neil Brown hoy, 17:14 (Recibido hoy, 17:49)

admirable to even try and read every bio tbh

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John Gordon

in reply to Neil Brown hoy, 17:14 (Recibido hoy, 17:49)

Interesting to compare to “Asian: do not interact”

I’d probably mute rather than block.

Better, I’d love a labeler that could warn me not to interact with a particular poster. Labelers are hard though.

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Neil Brown

in reply to John Gordon hoy, 17:17 (Recibido hoy, 17:49)

@jgordon

> Interesting to compare to “Asian: do not interact”

I'd block a person with this in their bio. I've no time for that kind of racism.

I am, however, appreciative that some people - often femmes - will have had problems with men online, and wish to cut that right out.

@John Gordon

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firstly yay good job. I guess fair play I would do the same if it was no woman, though I've never seen it. I would block more out of not wanting to interact with a bigot, whereas I think you're probably being kind. Secondly just so sad someone had been through whatever to do that AND then missed out on great men like you who can help balance out the nobheads.

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Neil Brown

in reply to Thayer hoy, 17:51 (Recibido hoy, 18:10)

@Thayer

> Secondly just so sad someone had been through whatever to do that AND then missed out on great men like you who can help balance out the nobheads.

It *is* sad, but the benefit may simply not outweigh the risks involved in finding out. The notion of "treating every gun as loaded, until you have personally confirmed otherwise".

@Thayer

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Thayer

in reply to Neil Brown hoy, 17:56 (Recibido hoy, 18:10)

all men online is a big fuckin gun though. I dunno I do hear you and you're obviously right in your kindness. But I often wonder how the kindness should work both ways. Also how much better life would be to heal up before moving in spaces where you could be that triggered, instead of being rude to soooooo many people. Regardless of reason it does send a signal of personal accountability.

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Neil Brown

in reply to Thayer hoy, 17:59 (Recibido hoy, 18:10)

@Thayer

Conversely, I suppose that a quid pro quo might be that, if men were consistently excellent online and off, there might be fewer such statements?

@Thayer

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Thayer

in reply to Neil Brown hoy, 18:02

I mean, humans generally though. But I do see your point, and I concede.

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Carlos Solís

in reply to John Gordon hoy, 18:08

Labelers are perhaps the most important part of ATProto that needs to be ported to ActivityPub. Many vulnerable communities would rather have their data be hosted by BlueSky, than deal with the harassment with the limited tools currently in Mastodon for example.

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Mans R

in reply to John Gordon hoy, 19:16 (Recibido hoy, 19:25)

@jgordon On dating apps, I'd sometimes see "blacks only" in the profile of a black woman. Couldn't but imagine the impression it would give if it said white instead.

@John Gordon

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Neil Brown

in reply to Mans R hoy, 19:24

@mansr @jgordon

False equivalences do no favours!

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Neil Brown

Unknown parent hoy, 18:01 (Recibido hoy, 18:13)

@Jaimieserotica

That sounds horrible :(

@Jaimieserotica

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Neil Brown

Unknown parent hoy, 18:07 (Recibido hoy, 18:15)

@Jaimieserotica

> I'm a big girl - I can handle it.

I know what you do for a job. You must be absolutely awesome at "handling" unpleasant stuff, and segmenting to stay sane.

I am genuinely in awe of you for that.

(To counterbalance this praise, you probably also smell.)

@Jaimieserotica

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Neil Brown

Unknown parent hoy, 18:14

@Jaimieserotica

Wait, does this mean they you have different perfumes on different days?!

I have one aftershave and I will use it until it is empty, and then I will buy another, probably the same :)

@Jaimieserotica

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Farooq [Master Patata]

in reply to Neil Brown hoy, 18:16

Well I would like to block or mute any account which makes such a thing, not just this special case. I think there was something that only blacks/whites can reply? I instantly blocked(or muted?) the account.